Absinthe
Stick it in your happy place.
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Spleeh
Apr 23, 2008 4:18:18 GMT
Post by Absinthe on Apr 23, 2008 4:18:18 GMT
I value online communities. I NEED them, though (I'm not going to say anymore about that).
I really hate it when forums die. I usually take the blame for it, since I could always have posted more (this is happening on another forum...I'm the only one posting and it's sad...). I really don't want to lose any of the ones I go to. Without them, I feel empty and alone (worse than normal, anyway). This is really the only way I talk to people (I can get myself to go out a little more now, but not very far), so if any of them go, I have no social life. I could always find a new community, but why? I like the people here and in the other ones I'm part of.
I would also never be able to say this in real life. I speak a lot less...shall we say...verbosely...if at all.
And I do write and draw. I also do "active" things where I can. It's not that I don't have a life. This is PART of my life. Relationships of any kind are PART of a life. If they weren't, would any of us even bother to post on here? No, we wouldn't. We'd also all be warmongering zombies, but that's if we cut out ALL positive relationships, not just online ones.
Now, since we took the time to post in here, why don't we take the time to post elsewhere?
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Otzlowe
Enigmatic Horror
How many miles to heaven? I think I'm getting close.
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Spleeh
Apr 23, 2008 19:02:47 GMT
Post by Otzlowe on Apr 23, 2008 19:02:47 GMT
I value online communities. I NEED them, though (I'm not going to say anymore about that). I really hate it when forums die. I usually take the blame for it, since I could always have posted more (this is happening on another forum...I'm the only one posting and it's sad...). I really don't want to lose any of the ones I go to. Without them, I feel empty and alone (worse than normal, anyway). This is really the only way I talk to people (I can get myself to go out a little more now, but not very far), so if any of them go, I have no social life. I could always find a new community, but why? I like the people here and in the other ones I'm part of. I would also never be able to say this in real life. I speak a lot less...shall we say...verbosely...if at all. And I do write and draw. I also do "active" things where I can. It's not that I don't have a life. This is PART of my life. Relationships of any kind are PART of a life. If they weren't, would any of us even bother to post on here? No, we wouldn't. We'd also all be warmongering zombies, but that's if we cut out ALL positive relationships, not just online ones. Now, since we took the time to post in here, why don't we take the time to post elsewhere? I realize how absolutely pointless it is, in me saying this, but: Exactly!
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Spleeh
Apr 24, 2008 17:12:39 GMT
Post by Surreptitious Cardboard Box on Apr 24, 2008 17:12:39 GMT
I can understand that online relationships offer something that physical ones don't, and as you said Erik, it provides you with the opportunity to talk to people from all over the world, at any given time. Being able to speak to friends like you, Mike and Sephos has meant that I have learnt so much more about your nations and cultures, beyond the usual prejudices and stereotypes that we hold in this country. This isn't so much directed at you, seeing as you mentioned that you do plenty of things with your neighbouring friends and girlfriend already, but it's important to remember that we all possess physical desires to be with people too. Even if it's just being in the presence of another person, it's important to go out and see the friends we can, instead of relying on random communities that we're not really that familiar with, for contact.
Also, you said that "here's a person who doesn't know you, but they don't feel so up on themselves that they can't be arsed to take a minute out, read what's wrong with you, and actually try to give some sort of support", but I don't know where you're coming from with that. I find that the people who know me, and who have been friends with me for several years are the ones that actually care about me and aren't up themselves. If a person I had just started talking to then started regaling me with woeful tales about how their life is shitty, unless they told me they were about to commit suicide, or something, I wouldn't really care.
Absinthe, I'm afraid I don't know what the word you're searching for is - my vocabulary is sadly lacking - but 'verbosity' is actually the antonym of it. To be verbose is to speak a lot, I believe.
Lastly, I find it amusingly ironic that this thread is the most active on the entire forum, at the moment.
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Otzlowe
Enigmatic Horror
How many miles to heaven? I think I'm getting close.
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Spleeh
Apr 24, 2008 19:10:00 GMT
Post by Otzlowe on Apr 24, 2008 19:10:00 GMT
There are a lot of compulsive liars from where I come from, who'll listen either, A. Only long enough so they can just get back to all they wanted to say to you, and then end the conversation, or B. Will pretend to care, and then bitch about you to someone else.
Even beyond that, there are people I know, who say I can talk to them if necessary, but that doesn't mean that they'll actually want to. People say that just to be polite, sometimes. It's a dumb thing to say if you don't want to listen, but some people do say it. Then there are just those occasions where you try to talk to someone you trust, and they're in a bad mood, and don't want to hear it, or something like that. I'm not saying that no one in real life listens. Just that, if someone reads your post, and gives you a serious answer on the internet, they usually actually care, where as a person in real life may do it just to be polite.
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Spleeh
Apr 24, 2008 20:56:06 GMT
Post by Surreptitious Cardboard Box on Apr 24, 2008 20:56:06 GMT
That seems to make sense, though I've never had that issue before, so I guess that makes it slightly harder for me to comprehend the necessity of having strangers who will at least listen to your concerns. I think generally, though, it helps that I don't really have any problems in life, or at least not any that I need to discuss seriously with someone. No that I like serious expression of emotion anyway .
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Absinthe
Stick it in your happy place.
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Spleeh
Apr 29, 2008 4:40:17 GMT
Post by Absinthe on Apr 29, 2008 4:40:17 GMT
Absinthe, I'm afraid I don't know what the word you're searching for is - my vocabulary is sadly lacking - but 'verbosity' is actually the antonym of it. To be verbose is to speak a lot, I believe. That's EXACTLY the word I meant. I talk a lot more on here than I do in person, which is what I said... But this post doesn't really demonstrate that, since I have nothing to say at the moment.
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Spleeh
Apr 29, 2008 19:15:50 GMT
Post by lycoris on Apr 29, 2008 19:15:50 GMT
Absinthe, I'm afraid I don't know what the word you're searching for is - my vocabulary is sadly lacking - but 'verbosity' is actually the antonym of it. To be verbose is to speak a lot, I believe. That's EXACTLY the word I meant. I talk a lot more on here than I do in person, which is what I said... But this post doesn't really demonstrate that, since I have nothing to say at the moment. I'd like to say that I do exactly the same thing but have very little to add other than that...this isn't very good for proving a point, is it?
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Spleeh
May 16, 2008 12:19:09 GMT
Post by Avus Agnasci on May 16, 2008 12:19:09 GMT
The internet has indeed died away, every single website I used to go over to death, has died. Greatestjournal, ToG, my own board, for a time, there was another one that I was co-admin to that thrived for a few months, that i don't even remember the name of xD
everything apart from F*cking myspace is dead.
that is it, really, we are in the Myspace age, and who runs myspace?
Good old Mr Rupert F*cking Murdoch.
Its a load of bull, now, Because I do still spend a lot of time on the internet, but there is a complete lack of thriving communities to depend upon when you're alone.
I've been through a rough month, I broke up with my girlfriend of three years, lost a lot of friends, and started hitting alcohol and tobacco like I never have in my life. I feel there is nothing for me, nothing to do, nobody to see...
nobody that really cares anymore.
And ToG used to be a place that i could always come back to, and without fail there would be someone who would give a damn, somebody who knew the right things to say or the right way to go about getting on with the rest of my life.
but that's all dead now.
I really don't know what to do anymore.
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Spleeh
May 16, 2008 17:18:13 GMT
Post by Richard El Britannia on May 16, 2008 17:18:13 GMT
That's not good to hear, Avus. Well, if it's any consolation, we'll always be around. I check the forum here everyday and I log into MSN a lot, so if you wanna talk, I'm available quite a lot. Activity might be pretty slow here, but it's not really dead.
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Spleeh
May 17, 2008 13:02:46 GMT
Post by Surreptitious Cardboard Box on May 17, 2008 13:02:46 GMT
Yeah, I'm really sorry to hear those things, Seb, but as Rich said, you're always welcome to here to talk to any of us, or on MSN. This isn't exactly a thriving community, but we do all come here regularly.
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Spleeh
May 18, 2008 16:34:22 GMT
Post by Avus Agnasci on May 18, 2008 16:34:22 GMT
Thankyou to those who care... its appreciated x
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